Godly Man

My husband was a godly man...no..REALLY!!!!  He wasn't always....have no idea if he is now but at one time....

I loved my husband and the only change I would have made was for him to love the Lord.  I found men who loved the Lord....truely spiritual leaders ...very attractive.  If only my husband loved the Lord...he would be perfect....LOL!!!

He would go to Sunday school but he was not too keen on the whole church thing.  Our church was big on Promise Keepers.  Each year I would ask him if he would like to go.  I would get a typical, 'yeah, right.' and the walk away.  One year he stopped, looked me right in the eye and said, 'Okay...'  I thought I had heard him wrong but paid right away,,(I knew he would go if it was already paid for!).

I remember listening to it on the radio thinking that he would either get turned on or completely turned off but I knew he would not be able to stay neutral.  I prayed...a LOT!!!

He called me and said it was the best thing that ever happened to him!

That started his move into actually LEADING a Promise keepers man's group...the newest Christian leading the group.  That was my husband always the best a leader among men....He got involved in working for Promise Keepers on the security team and got to travel to DC!  He loved it.

We were both very involved in our church and church family.  When we moved north finding a new church family was important to both of us.

We found a church and a community that loved God.  We both started individual bible studies and we facilitated a home group every week.  We had keys to the church and were involved in everything.

We even helped to do a church plant in our community.  My husband was one of the elders!  People looked up to him and admired him.  Young people would have him mentor them.  Young women wanted a husband just like him....What a wonderful Godly man....ARE YOU KIDDING ME????

The incredible Hulk!

?We used to laugh as we renamed my husband the Incredible Hulk.  This was WAY before the movie, (which I never saw).  My husband literally turned into the Hulk....Hulk face and all.  When he was angry he CHANGED!  He would spit as he yelled...slam doors till the panels fell off...

I would just be silent.  No response was the right one.  If I left he would say..."thats right run away...thats what you always do...".  If I was quiet and said nothing he would yell and say..."why can't you just get mad?  Tell me what your thinking?"  If I yelled, (which was rare....and I found out quickly NOT the best response)...He would yell louder and get meaner.  Soo....I learned to ride it out.  It was usually over quickly and he was always sorry....

The kids were 'used' to it.  He would ask our daughter, 'what makes me angry/'  She always replied with, 'the little things.' It was always the little things that would set him off.

He never physically hurt anyone....I mean he left bruises on my arms a few times but, you know, I bruise easily and he would tell me it was just because I was fragile.

No one ever saw this side off my husband.  They always saw the loving, compassionate, fun, godly man.  We had complete strangers...(more than once) stop us on the streets to tell us that they loved watching us - we were so in love!  Looking back it is ALMOST funny!!!

I do have one friend,  my best friend and son's Godmother who saw him for who he was.  She has told me that she could never see how I could walk on eggshells all the time.  I thought about that.  I never saw the egg shells.  The good was so good that the bad was just a small thing....ARE YOU KIDDING ME???

The perfect husband....

I had the perfect marriage.  Everyone said so!  I was sooooo lucky!  My husband was the BEST!  He wrote me little love notes all the time, brought me cute little gifts.  All kinds of small things he just knew I would like and things that would make me laugh!  I loved to laugh and he knew just how to make me do it!  He cleaned the house, did the laundry, the grocery shopping, did most of the cooking....I was the luckiest woman around!

He loved to decorate for the holidays....all my friends wanted him to give their husbands lessons...their husbands were not fond of him though...he made them look bad!

We were always touching and kissing, our kids would just roll their eyes and laugh!  We cuddled together every night watching TV.  We always held hands when we walked together...anywhere!  We went everywhere together.

So what if he would yell and scream and cuss at me about once a week?   He wasn't mad at ME....he was just letting off steam.  He couldn't let loose at work...he had to yell at someone....right???  I mean, he always apologized after so it was okay right?  ARE YOU KIDDING ME???

Our little town...

Our house had a great yard which I promptly set to rights with adorable yard art and cute little gardens everywhere!!!  Flowers and trees even a little pitcher with water pouring into a sink!  Fun stuff!!! I scoured the garage sales for fun things to plant in...a claw foot tub, old wringer washing machine...lots of enamel pots and pitchers....to cute!

We even had a guest house complete with small kitchen and bath.  Perfect for all my crafts!  I soon had painting classes in the guest house and womans bible study. We had a great time!!!

I loved everyone I met.  Church was great.  I loved living in a small town.  Everyone knew everyone. Going to the post office was an event!  Fellowship opportunities everywhere.

We had people over all the time for bible studies and dinner and just fun!!!  We laughed and played.

Holidays were awesome at our home!!!  Lights and decorations everywhere you looked, Halloween particularly but the best was Christmas.  We had a huge open house every Christmas Eve.  Everyone was welcome. 7 decorated Christmas trees,  Christmas movies playing for the kids, tons of food and homemade goodies and of course...Christmas Caroling!! We would torture the entire town with our singing and the town loved us!!!   They actually waited for us every year!

Everyone would comment on how blessed we were how in love we were...they could see it!!!

Life just couldn't get  any better!  I was so loved....ARE YOU KIDDING ME???

The big move....

My husband had to report to his new office in March which left me to pack up the entire 5 bedroom house all by myself.  A 15 year old not happy about leaving her new boyfriend and a 6 yr old ready for a new adventure.

My husband was given two instructions....find us a place to live and a church.  Simple right??? Not so much.

I decided to plan a 'fun' train trip up north with the kids over spring break to check out where we would be living....I had never been there.  25 hours later we arrived...tired and more than a bit cranky!

No rentals to be found and not many homes in our price range...my husband had to tell the realtor to 'humor' me cuz I was NOT a happy camper....(25 hours with a  6 year old on a train....not my idea of a good time!)

We found the perfect house!!!!  Love at first sight and right across the street from a church!  Is God good or what?  (But you notice I had to get there to get it done...lol!)

We,  (meaning me), packed up and moved...kids, two dogs and lots of stuff in June to our quaint little town.  Ready to start a new adventure....Are you kidding me???

once upon a time...

Once upon a time ...a long time ago...there was a princess who thought she had found her knight in shining armour.....

Oh wait, this is ME I'm talking about!

I married the most awesome man!  He loved me more than anyone had ever loved me.  We had a beautiful smart daughter and an adorable son.  I had the career of a lifetime doing what I loved making lots of money.  Everything was just perfect....

My husband decided that southern Ca was not the place to be in law enforcement or raise kids.  He asked my to give up my career and retire and move to Northern Ca with him to a small quaint town that offered everything we had always wanted.

Being the loving suppportive wife I was.... I gave up my career and moved north.

Everything was perfect....ARE YOU KIDDING ME???